--Parenting Styles 03--

Hello! Here is the section #3. I hope that all of you have gone through section #1 and #2.

Section #3

The Laissez-Faire Parent

- Freely accepts all emotional expression from the child.

- Offers comfort but little guidance on behaviour, to the child experiencing negative feelings.

- Does not teach the child about emotions.

- Is permissive; does not set limits.

- Does not help or teach the child to problem-solve.

- Believes there is little you can do about negative emotions other than ride them out.

- Believes that managing negative emotions is a matter of hydraulics; realise the emotion and the work is done.

Effect on children

- They don't learn to regular their emotions.

- They have trouble concentrating.

- They have problems forming friendships, and getting along with other children.

--Parenting Styles 02--

I hope that you have finished the section #1. Here is the section #2.


Section #2

The Disapproving Parent

-Displays many of the Dismissing Parent's behaviours, but in a more negative way.

-Judges and criticizes the child's emotional expression.

-Is overaware of the need to set limits on their children.

-Emphasizes conformity to good standards of behaviour.

-Reprimands, disciplines, or punishes the child for emotional expression, whether the child is misbehaving or not.

-Believes expressions of negative emotions reflect bad character traits, and should be time-limited, and controlled.

-Believes the child uses negative emotions to manipulate; this belief results in power struggles.

-Believes emotions make people weak; children must be emotionally tough for survival.

-Is concerned with the child's obedience to authority.

Effects on children

-Same as the Dismissing style.

--Parenting Styles 01--

Hi! I just finished one parenting article.I had divided it into 4 sections and would like to share with you...

Section #1

The Dismissing Parent

-Treats a child's feelings as unimportant or trivial.

-Wants the child's negative emotions to disappear quickly.

-May ignore, ridicule or make light of a child's emotions.

-Believes children's feelings are irrational, and therefore don't count.

-May lack awareness of emotions in self and others.

-Feels uncomfortable, fearful, anxious, annoyed, or overwhelmed by child's emotions.

-Fears being out-of-control emotionally.

-Focuses more on how to get over emotions than on the meaning of the emotion itself.

-Sees the child's emotions as a demand to fix things.

-Believes negative emotions mean the child is not well adjusted, and reflects badly on the parents.

-Believes negative emotions are harmful or toxic.

-Minimizes the child's feelings, downplaying the events that led to the emotion.

-Does not problem-solve with the child; believes that the passage of time will resolve most problems.

Effects on the children

-They learn that thrir feelings are wrong, inappropriate, and not valid.

-They may think that there is something inherently wrong with them because of the way they feel.

-They may have difficulties regulating their own emotions.

I feel it's good to describe nowaday's parents, and what do you think.

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