--Parenting Styles 04--

Hi! Section #4 a bit late, cause I'm busy with my new creation, show you later. ^_^

Section #4

The Emotion Coach

- Sees the world of negative emotions as an important arena for parenting.

- Values and respects the child's negative emotions as an opportunity for intimacy.

- Can tolerate spending time with sad, angry, or fearful child; does not become impatient with the emotion.

- Is aware of and values their own emotions.

- Is sensitive to the child's emotional states, even when they are subtle.

- Is not confused or anxious about the child's emotional expression; they're in control and knows what needs to be done.

- Does not poke fun or make light of the child's feelings.

- Does not say how the child should feel.

- Does not feel they have fix every problem for the child.

- Uses emotional moments as a time to

--> Listen to the child

--> Empathize with soothing words and affection

--> Help the child label the emotion he or she is feeling

--> Offer guidance on regulating emotions

--> Set limits and teach acceptable expression of emotions

--> Teach problem-solving skills

Effects On Children

- They learn to trust their feelings, regulate their emotions, and solve problems.

- They have high self-esteem

- They learn well and get along with others.

--Parenting Styles 01--

Hi! I just finished one parenting article.I had divided it into 4 sections and would like to share with you...

Section #1

The Dismissing Parent

-Treats a child's feelings as unimportant or trivial.

-Wants the child's negative emotions to disappear quickly.

-May ignore, ridicule or make light of a child's emotions.

-Believes children's feelings are irrational, and therefore don't count.

-May lack awareness of emotions in self and others.

-Feels uncomfortable, fearful, anxious, annoyed, or overwhelmed by child's emotions.

-Fears being out-of-control emotionally.

-Focuses more on how to get over emotions than on the meaning of the emotion itself.

-Sees the child's emotions as a demand to fix things.

-Believes negative emotions mean the child is not well adjusted, and reflects badly on the parents.

-Believes negative emotions are harmful or toxic.

-Minimizes the child's feelings, downplaying the events that led to the emotion.

-Does not problem-solve with the child; believes that the passage of time will resolve most problems.

Effects on the children

-They learn that thrir feelings are wrong, inappropriate, and not valid.

-They may think that there is something inherently wrong with them because of the way they feel.

-They may have difficulties regulating their own emotions.

I feel it's good to describe nowaday's parents, and what do you think.

I hope this article benefit you as it's benefit me a lot....^_^